How do I deal with my boyfriend’s negative comments?
Very Nice Indeed! asked:
I’m a freelance journalist and I write magazine articles for a living. Last year I got a book contract for my first book and I was paid an advance. My boyfriend did a graduate degree in creative writing but he has never managed to get any of his writing published. Recently he became depressed and also refused to read any of my writing work. Finally he admitted it was because my success at writing was making him very angry and jealous. I asked him how he would deal with things when my book came out and if I became successful and made a lot of money. His reply was, “you’re unlikely to make real money, like Sidney Sheldon, so thankfully its not going to be something that I’ll have to worry about.”
I said, “how do you even know what money I might or might not make?”
He said, “I’m sure of it. You’re just not going to make that much money at it.”
Right now I think he is pathetic. How do I deal with his constant negativity and competitiveness?
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6 Responses to “How do I deal with my boyfriend’s negative comments?”
Break up with him.. he is negative… and he will probably hold you back mentally and successfully.
Maybe he will get it when you end things and see what he is doing wrong..and will probably work on himself to be a better support system for you.
Jealously can destroy a relationship fast. The best thing is try to be positive, and if people where not making good money doing it then why would so many people be making a living off of writing of any kind. Your situation actually sounds very close to the story line of the movie Funny Farm with Chevy Chase. If you havn’t see it you should, the back story of the couple is very close to what your explaining so it might help. Keep your head up.
Write a book about a**holes and make the tilte whatever his name is. First of all get rid of his a** because when the money starts rolling in, you will not have to worry about spending a dime on him. Problem Solved!
I’m not sure how to answer you, but I’ve seen something similar to what is going on between you and your bf on TV! It was in Sex and the City in the Carrie-Berger relationship. When you get a chance, why don’t you watch it? Sorry for not giving you a helpful answer. Good luck!
Clearly, you really let him know that you are more successful than he is.
What should the guy do? Competition with you with his writing? Then what would you ask? Is my boyfriend want to competitive with me with his writing? Evidently, you are more success of what you are doing. I think the guy try to get along with you by stay out of your way, and go do something else.
How did he came out and omit to you that it was making him very angry and jealous? Did you confront the poor guy until he couldn’t stand it any more, and omit it to you, so you would be happy with the answer you wanted to hear? The last part that was mean. I think he wanted to hurt you back, but didn’t really enjoy doing it. I think you need to be the encouragement to him, by not say anything else about his writing. As the same time support him of his decide on what he wanted to do with his life-happily ever after with you, of cause.
miss very nice indeed?
i have read some of your other questions because reading this current question made me concerned about you. you say more about your boyfriend in those questions….
what you have stated in your other questions makes me think if you don’t walk away from him now… and NEVER look back? you deserve what you get from him.
don’t you value yourself? you are on the path of success and he is doing all he can to bring you down.
RUN don’t walk